"Men are computers and women are cell phones"

I read an interesting article comparing men and women. Here is an excerpt. "I don't know how we're going to sort out tonight's schedule," I gushed as my husband, Richie, came through the door. "You're late—and Andrew has a game an hour away. One of us has to get him there by 7:00. Jordan has a game here. Kaley is cheering at Jordan's game, but she also has a game right before his. And it's the same time as Andrew's away game. That's also the time Allie and Daniel are supposed to have practice at …."

I hadn't even gotten to the dinner dilemma part of my list, when I knew by Richie's wide-eyed, zombie stare that he'd shut down somewhere just after "You're late." I've seen the look before. How many other wives have seen their husbands processing information when suddenly their "screen saver" kicks on? My husband is able to process a lot of information. I know—I can dish it out in hefty chunks. There are times, however, when something seems to happen to his internal processor. Everything locks up and I feel as if I need to, well, reboot. It's as if I'm living with a computer!

Funny thing is, Richie tells me he's living with a cell phone. The night he arrived home late, he'd had a long problem-filled day at work. He'd been looking forward to coming home, to his refuge where he could simply veg out and not have to think.

As he opened the front door, his peace bubble exploded into an outline of the evening's agenda. I'd been poised at the door, ready for the attack. Every word about every game and every place the kids had to be came at him nonstop. Richie told me later that my actions were akin to settling into a comfy seat at a movie theater only to have his cell phone blast.

I'm a "cell phone"? I thought. And I realized I can go off unexpectedly and sometimes at the most inopportune moments. I'm also faithful to keep "calling" until I'm answered. Oh no! I thought. I am a cell phone!

Can you relate? What are ways we can bridge this gap in our communication/thought processing styles? What works for you and your spouse?

P/Steve

Happy New Year!

Well 2009 is here. For many they were happy to see 2008 disappear...with all the turmoil, the economy and craziness that occurred, it was a "unique" year for many to say the least. With a new year. always comes new expectations, commitments and hope. I want to challenge you as a family and a couple to give some thought to how things will be different in 2009. What are you prepared to do to improve your family and marriage and most importantly let God be the Lord of your house and marriage? Share some commitments that you and or your family are making this year to grow together as a family and toward God. If you haven't laid some of those things out yet, just give ideas of what we can do to improve our families and marriages...

P/Steve